Make Love, Not War In Business - The Chief Happiness Officer Blog

Make Love, Not War In Business - The Chief Happiness Officer Blog When Kai-Fu Lee, a key Microsoft employee, decided to leave to go work for one of their competitors he had an interesting experience: Prior to joining Google, I set up a meeting on or about November 11, 2004 with Microsofts CEO Steve Ballmer to discuss my planned departure At some point in the conversation Mr. Ballmer said: Just tell me its not Google. I told him it was Google. At that point, Mr. Ballmer picked up a chair and threw it across the room hitting a table in his office. Mr. Ballmer then said: F*cking Eric Schmidt [Googles CEO] is a f*cking pussy. Im going to f*cking bury that guy, I have done it before, and I will do it again. Im going to f*cking kill Google. Source: John Batelles blog I dont know about you, but Im getting really, really tired of the business as war approach. Im sick of hearing about the market as a battlefield, competitors as enemies who should be killed and employees as foot soldiers. Executives who buy this kind of thinking can be found looking for business advice in Sun Tzus The art of war, Clausewitzs On War or even Machiavellis The Prince. A recent business book called Hardball praises companies who are ruthless, mean, willing to hurt their rivals and enjoy watching their competitors squirm. But war is a terrible metaphor for business. It locks a company into an adversarial approach in which almost everyone becomes an enemy. It means spending time looking for ways to defeat your enemies, rather than making your own business great. It leads to zero-sum thinking, in which others have to lose, in order for you to win. In short, its bad for business, a lousy long-term motivator and just plain old silly. Microsofts desire to beat Google is a wonderful example of this tired approach as Kai-Fu Lees story above shows. Google, on the other hand, take a different approach to business as this quote from Nipun Mehtas excellent list of Google factoids says: CEO of AOL, Jon Miller says, Google is not anti-anybody. Most companies need a business enemy, and that is how they motivate themselves. Brin and Page, on the other hand, are motivated by their mission. Clearly, they think differently and are driven by their vision and business goals. The healthy approach to business is not about waging war. Its about creating value for your customers and promoting your vision. I believe that this way of doing business is simply an expression of love. Yes, love. Is love too flighty or soft a concept to use in business? Absolutely not. Were not talking romantic love here or the love that exists within families. Were talking something more akin to brotherly love what the ancient greeks called agape. The most useful definition Ive read of this type of love is this: Love is a total commitment to helping others realize their full potential. Love in this case means a commitment to other peoples happiness as well as your own. Its the realization that your happiness is tied to other peoples happiness. Its a conviction that we can usually trust each other in business, that we work more effectively together than alone and that business goes better when youre doing something that makes a positive difference in the world. That you can do well by doing good. This approach to business as love makes total sense even business sense. It is why clothing company Patagonia devote themselves to improving the environment. Its why Danish car dealer Kjaer Group are so active improving conditions in Africa. Its why Southwest Airlines brand themselves as the Luv Airline. When love (and not war) is your driving force: Your work has meaning and relevance beyond your own personal needs and desires. Your focus is on creating and contributing, not on destroying. Your attention is on your own organization, not on your enemys. You focus more on collaborating with customers, suppliers and even competitors to promote your vision. You focus more on opportunities and less on threats. You treat business as a non-zero-sum game, in which many players create values together. You dont waste time and energy having enemies. All the happy organizations Ive studied refuse to wage war. They have competitors, sure, but no enemies. They waste no time on grudges, dirty tricks or wishing harm upon others. In fact, whenever possible, they have constructive, friendly relations with their competitors. So lets lose all talk of digging trenches, fortifying defenses and killing enemies at work. Its not going to get us anywhere good. Lets rethink business and work to the point where it is an expression of the love we feel for others not an expression of our desire to beat our enemies into submission. 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